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The Best Key On How To Have A Spirit-Led Relationship

Spirit-led relationships

In today’s era, divorce rates are on the rise, and the traditional concept of marriage appears less attractive. This article delves into the reasons behind this trend and the state of marriages today. Moreover, I derive from scripture what a spirit-led relationship looks like and the distinct roles of both men and women.

1. Why Relationships Can Be Difficult

Marriage, as originally designed by God for men to fulfill their purpose on earth, is outlined in Genesis through the story of Adam and Eve. Following the Fall, Eve received a punishment that sheds light on the challenging and complex nature of relationships between men and women.

God said in Genesis 3:16, “You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you”. This punishment shifted the husband and wife relationship from harmony to a continuous power struggle.

2. The State Of Relationships Today

Today there are many variations of marriages such as polygamy, polyandry and open marriages. There also seem to be a gender war where many movements and ideologies have emerged. Thus encouraging men to forgo loving and giving to women.

Equally, modern day feminism seemingly contrives to control men on how they should think and behave. The only way to understand the purpose of the thing is to refer to the creator of the thing.

Men and women were created by God and He knows how we function best. He has given us his word for us to get to know ourselves and him. 1 Timothy 4:1-3 reads, “The Spirit clearly says that in the later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. They forbid people to marry…”. I do believe we are living at the age referenced in this verse.

People have turned away from the truth and we know from John 17:17 that the truth is God’s word. Moreover, Jesus declared in John 8:32, “you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”. What he meant was knowledge of God’s word frees us from worldly philosophies that may seem accurate but never fulfil and satiate our innermost needs desires.

3. What A Spirit-Led Relationship Looks Like

Many ladies contend with the idea of submitting to their husbands. Let’s deep dive to find the recipe for a successful marriage. Paul wrote in Ephesians 5:22, “wives submit yourselves to your husbands as you do to the Lord”. However the preceding verse reads, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”, (Ephesians 5:21). Therefore, a spirit-led relationship according to the word is one where both husband and wife submit to each other out of their deep faith and respect for Jesus Christ.

A spirit-led relationship between a man and woman

4. The Role Of A Woman In A Spirit-Led Relationship

Paul likens submission of a wife to her husband as a way in which the Church submits to Christ. The Church is not a building or a temple, it is simply a group of believers in Christ. Believers in Christ revere, esteem and submit to Christ as the head in the Kingdom of God, we do not desire to usurp his authority but rather we submit to him.

However, this is not to say a woman must submit to a worldly man. Eve submitted to Adam whilst Adam was in the presence of God. The Church submits to Christ because he is the son of God and has always been in the presence of God (John 10:30; John 1:1-2).

The precondition for a woman’s submission to her husband is that he must be in the presence of God. Take note that when an individual is in the presence of God, God provides them with wisdom, peace, joy, perseverance, etc., submission almost becomes natural to a woman whose husband reveres Christ.

5. The Role Of A Man In A Spirit-led Relationship

In the same breath, the word says the husband must love their wives as Christ loved the Church. Christ’s love for the church is showed when he gave up his life on the cross so that we can have eternal life. John 1:14 reads, “for God so loved the world that He gave his only son”. The act of giving is a show of love, true love is accompanied by giving. The ultimate love is shown when God gave His son and prized possession, to be the Savior of the world. In the same way, the husband role in a spirit-led relationship is marked by giving and not getting.

Psalms 123:2-4 explicitly describes what happens to the relationship and family of a godly man, one who submits to his wife out of reverence for Christ. “You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Yes, this will be the blessing of the man who fears the Lord.” This man is blessed because of his obedience to God, his vocation brings him prosperity which cascades down to the success of his wife and children.

6. God’s Design For Spirit-Led Relationships

Divorce and separations do occur, but as per God’s original design, a husband and a wife unite inseparably. Divorce became a possibility the moment Adam and Eve sinned and were banished from the presence of God. This made it impossible for them to have a spirit-led relationship because they were now operating in an environment away from God.

Relationships between a husband and a wife became marred with a power struggle and discontent. The good news is Christ gave us the gift of the Holy Spirit – the Spirit of God that now lives in us. Moreover, the Holy Spirit guides us in the truth that gives discernment and wisdom to have a spirit-led (John 16:13).

7. Final Remark

In closing, consider a fish, it was created by God to live in the sea, the sea is its natural habitat – this is where it functions best, thrives and show all its glory. You may take the same fish and place it in a tank or a bowl, it’ll still survive however the environment is not conducive for it to flourish as it would in its natural habitat.

Likewise, key to having a spirit-led relationship is is for both partners, man and woman, to be connected to God through the Holy Spirit. People do have marriages outside this precondition, however the best environment for a successful marriage is in the presence of God.

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